In Memoriam

ST MARY’S HALL

The life of a school, like the life of a soul,

Is spirit; in flesh; it can die and survive.

When pupils are scattered and buildings destroyed,

It still can recover, it yet can revive.

Its character lives in the lives it has trained.

Their love is not lost in the passing of time.

Unbroken by war, and its glory retained,

The life of this school is a record sublime.

(F Keeling Scott “late Vicar of St Marks” contributed this poem to the 1949 newsletter.)

For additional linked details please click on the names where underlined below.

Christina (Chrissie) Meads - Member of the Catering Team for over 40 years. Passed away 24th July 2021.

 

For her SMH 'Obituary' and Memories, please click here.

 

Dr Roger Dixon - Staff (Geography), mid '70s to 1991. Passed away 22nd June 2021, aged 72.

For his SMH 'Obituary' and Memories, please click here.

Danielle Gillam (Fraser) Trish Glasspool (Ireland) let us know of the

sudden and very sad passing of Dani in July 2021, age 39, leaving a

husband and three children.

Hannah summed up what all her contemporaries will be thinking when

she wrote “Truly heart-breaking news. Dani was loved by so many."

Hannah added "Some overriding memories include:

Speech and drama lessons and exams with Miss Carol Nina Best.

The Christopher Columbus school play.

She was naughty and she got in trouble a lot 

Setting the fire alarm off. Mr Jay was ballistic!

Mrs James asking that she didn’t return the following term….

Laughter-lots of laughter.

The prettiest girl with the most infectious personality.

Dan Dan-you will be so terribly missed. My heart is breaking for your

husband, 3 children and all who loved you. Until we meet again sister.”

Photo Charlotte Overton Hart, Danielle Fraser,

Caroline Owen. credit Hannah Draper (Butler)

Felicity Kemp, 1959-66,  died at home on 2nd June 2021, aged 71. She had been ill for a long while with various forms of cancer and had refused a final bout of chemo, preferring her last days to be pleasantly spent at home with her partner. Four or five Girls who had been in the same dorms in Hilary met up every year for a long while, sadly not including 2020 or 21, and they, in particular, will miss  Felicity, described by her friend Sue Burroughes (Anker) who knew her from Transition in 1959, as “a feisty, no-nonsense type of person”.

Images are of her at a recent London reunion and with

Penny Westlake Tuturea in 1961.

 

Celia Cook (“Kim” Kimmins) died in April 2021 after a long period of very poor health which she dealt with with her customary humour, acceptance and positivity.

Kim, as she was known to her many friends and fellow Old Girls, contributed a huge amount to our Association during the years she served on the committee and afterwards, assisting the Team from 2009 until only a month or so before her death with her encyclopaedic knowledge about the School and everything connected with it. Her career as a Genealogist was also of assistance to us and she gave unstintingly of her time even when having to type with her right hand (she was left-handed) after her left arm fractured as part of her health problems.....(please click on Celia's name above to continue.)

Mrs Marna (Valerie) Boyes (SMH 1962-1980) Passed away peacefully, of old age, on 4th January 2021, age 91.

Her funeral was held on 23rd January followed by burial at Bosham Cemetery.

Mrs Boyes taught Geography at SMH and both her daughters (Jemma and Nicola)

attended the school. Following the closure of SMH Jemma and Nicola kept her abreast of

the Association’s events and news and we marked her 90th birthday with a card, including

messages from many of ‘her girls’.

Among those marking her passing and sending condolences to her family were colleagues

Carole Baker, Catherine Hicks (Barnard) and Cynthia Palmer (Fabian) and former students

Lis Eastham (Ferguson), who commented “I loved Geography. Mrs Boyes and Miss Farmer

were my teachers. It was one of my best grades at O level. Condolences to the family.”

Adding their condolences were Sian Spencer (Williams), Susan McDonagh, Benice Deann

Gross (Rents), Tracey van Putten (Campbell), Lalida Richardson, Miriam Luke (Batten),

Gill Smith (Walsh), Lynn Tulip ( Benjamin), Alison Stoecker (Enwezoh). Trish ffrench (Williams)

recalled that she and her sister Nikki often got lifts to school from Valerie, who lived near

them in Patcham at the time.

Also Gaynor Fitzgerald (Webb), Sue Duncan (Hennings), who added “She helped me love Geography so much, I went on to do a degree in Environmental Science.”; Jane Andrews (Goacher), Angie Risley (Charles) Jennifer Tsang, Carolanne Fazakerly (Vokins), Rosemary Fox, Mariam Verjee, Heather Goddard and Penny Wade who said “Mrs Boyes was one of my favourite teachers and always great fun. I really enjoyed geography and wish I’d carried on.”  Anna Tinner added “Mrs Boyes was a fabulous teach plus so beautiful too. I can still see her in class. I got a Geography CSE grade 1 because of her.”

Shelley Lüer (Hayes) has “Very fond memories of Mrs Boyes.” Terry Damm said “Mrs Boyes was such a fun teacher. One of my favorite classes and teachers at SMH. Opening up the globe and instilling my love for travel and learning about other cultures!” “One of my favourite teachers, too,” said Judith Scott (Savery), “with a great sense of humour and understanding of teenage girls. I remember her coming to class one day and telling us that it wasn’t only teenagers that get spots as old people like her had them too (she would have been all of 40 at the time!). I was horrified of that possibility but needless to say I have thought of her often over the years!” Jane Fowlie (Badger) said "I remember Mrs Boyes, she was a great teacher and had a sparkling personality. My condolences to her daughters. I remember Nicola who was a few years ahead of me."

Lucinda Morrison wrote: “I'm so sorry to hear this. I arranged to have tea with her a couple of years ago but she contacted me on the day to say she wasn't feeling up to it. Shortly afterwards she moved into a nursing home so much to my regret, we never did meet up. She was inimitable - her teaching methods were so enthusiastic, if not always 100% reliable but all the more memorable for it! RIP Mrs Boyes and much sympathy to her family.” To which Melanie Morrison added: "So sad to hear this - I was very fond of Mrs Boyes. My sympathy to her family."

Francesca Sutton (Edgar) was in the same class as Jemma and said "I remember Mrs Boyes well. She was always a popular teacher with us all. I am sorry to hear of her passing. My condolences to Nicola & Jemma. I remember you all fondly.”

 

Mrs Boyes clearly loved teaching at SMH since she ‘left’ twice, being coaxed back after her first ‘retirement’ to cover for Dr Dixon when he was unwell.  School records of the time tell of how welcome was her return. My own (few) Geography lessons were with Miss Farmer but friends who were taught by Mrs Boyes all spoke of her enthusiastic approach to the subject – confirmed all these years on by the many comments sent with prayers and condolences, and I clearly remember that encounters with her always left me with the impression that she was a kind and fair person. It is wonderful that she had many years in retirement to see her daughters do so well and to enjoy the arrival and progress of her grandchildren.

June Marigold Mack (SMH 1947- 1949) Passed away 11th December 2020

Carolyn Mack contacted us on New Year’s Eve 2020 to inform us that her aunt who was a boarder at St Mary’s Hall from 1947 to 1949 passed away on 11th December 2020 after a short illness. 

June was born and brought up in North London and in 1974 bought a flat on Grove End Road, St John’s Wood, just round the corner from Lords Cricket ground (where she eventually became a member!). She lived there until 2012 when she moved to a flat in a retirement complex in Oxford.

Between 1952 and 1964 she held various secretarial positions working for the Royal College of Physicians, Foyles Bookshop and the CCPR (Central Council of Physical Recreation). In 1964 she was promoted to Office Manager at Crystal Palace National Sports Centre. She held various posts within the Sports Council eventually becoming Head of Centres Services at their Headquarters. She retired from the Sports Council in 1993.

In 1989 June achieved a BA First Class Honours degree from the Open University and was recruited as a tutor for the OU. She supported OU students for many years, running tutorials and teaching at Summer Schools, which she really enjoyed.

She had many friends and led a full and active life. Her many interests include a love of sport, especially cricket, theatre, walking, music, singing and travel. She shared and passed on her passions with her students, friends, her nieces, nephews and their families. 

June’s sister in law (Carolyn’s mother) Hilary June Mack neé Gardner and her sister Valerie Mary Gardner also attended St Mary’s Hall. Hilary was a pupil between 1933 and 1940. Valerie was 6 years younger born in May 1930. June contacted us after Hilary’s death in 2008 and an obituary was published in the magazine. Valerie died in 2009.

Rowan Fookes (Cawkell 1954-56)  Passed away 17th October 2020.We were told of her death by her very close friend Shirley Read-Jahn. We know that Rowan's contemporaries at SMH would join Shirley and sister, Pamela Bailey (Read-Jahn), in sending our condolences to Rowan’s family. These photographs show Rowan at the Reform Club in 2009 and sporting her recent new short blonde haircut, with which she was most pleased.

Emma Barry (Fontes (1973- 1978) Passed away October 2020. 

Having spent many years living in Colorado with her family, Emma spent much of the last year in Sussex caring for her mother during her final months before she succumbed to cancer in April 2020. It was a dreadful blow that Emma herself then discovered she had the disease and she died in Sussex at the beginning of October 2020. Many members sent condolences and messages to her family, which includes her younger sister Tamzin, who is also an Old Girl. Maria Waring remembered her "as a very kind caring SMH girl" Elizabeth (Libby) Ager expressed shock, adding, "I have recently been looking at photos of Emma as she & James went out for a while & I had her pony Blue on loan. Such happy times. Huge condolences to the family." Caroline White said "So sad to read this. Emma was always so kind and lovely, so many happy memories of horses and pony club days. Sending my condolences to her family xx" Lesley Clifford: "I am so saddened hearing this. Emma was a lovely girl and though we haven't kept in touch since leaving school, I have some very happy memories of spending some weekends in 4 / 5th form with her. Sending my condolences to all her family. Xx" Shana Duthie also remembers Emma and James. "We all went to a few discos together. They were happy days. I also remember Blue. It's very sad news. x" Lucinda added that she "too was totally shocked by it, especially having been for a walk with her and James in early September, and she seemed so much better. But she deteriorated very rapidly I believe." Amy Taylor and Henrietta Nesbitt said "What sad news, sorry to hear x" Alison Alpha Law concurred, saying she would tell her sister Kat, who would also remember her. The funeral was on Tuesday 13 October in Ditchling but under Covid-19 restrictions. Several Old Girls hoped to stand outside or on the green, during the service to remember her quietly.

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Julie Cowley - PE Teacher ~1954-57 - Passed away July 2020

Susan Boyle (Harrison, 1974-81) reported the sad loss of her Godfather's wife, who was at SMH as a very young PE teacher. Susan's Godfather told her that Julie was that proverbial all-rounder when it came to sports: she played lacrosse for Wales, and for the Brighton Seagulls and at some point also played on the Kent Ladies Cricket team. She was also an excellent tennis player. She later went on to teach at another school in Hove, and later was deputy head of St. Mary's Ascot. Shirley Read-Jahn (1954-61) was among those Old Girls who recalled Miss Cowley and sent us this photograph of Mrs. Eggleton and Miss Cowley (dark hair, on the right) on a school skiing trip in 1957.

N. Olwen Davies - Headmistress (1965-1973) - Passed away 21st June 2020, aged 94.

For additional details please click the name where underlined above.

Marie Downes (Levene, 1982-90) - Passed away 22nd December 2019

Emma Butterwick (Terrot, 1988-92) shared the news, on Christmas Eve, of the sad passing of Marie, who died  after a long fight with cancer.  Emma wrote:
“Marie leaves four delightful children, James, Olivia, Juliet and Clara who have shown incredible strength in supporting Marie. Marie was very proud to celebrate James’s wedding this summer in Scotland.
Marie was a professional musician who used her talent and brilliant organisational skills to raise funds for the Maggie Centre in Scotland; this was documented in You Magazine in 2017.
Marie loved her years at SMH and will always be remembered for her excellent tennis skills and beautiful music.” Emma and her daughter, Jessica, spent a wonderful day with Marie, Juliet and Clara in June 2019 reminiscing about the SMH years and many happy memories!

Sandra Russell (Hayes 1964-70) -  Passed away May 14, 2019.

Her husband James wrote: “She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in October 2017 and she fought bravely and throughout her challenge, Sandra maintained her self- respect, humour, her love of life and most of all, she continued to put her family first and never stopped loving them.”

Sarina Jane Lane “Snooky” Saunders (1954-60) - Passed away April 2019. 

Her sister Marylou Greenaway (Saunders 1950-54) sent this information for friends to see.  Their father and brother ran the family prep school, St. Christopher's, in Hove, where both she and her younger sister Vicky (not an Old Girl) worked. When Sarina left school she became a secretary to a local estate agent.  She married and had two sons.  Sarina volunteered for “Riding for the Disabled” alongside much other charitable work.  She had been unwell for many years but remained very stoic until her death.  She was very proud of her only grandchild, Henry.

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Amanda Nicholas - Passed away March 2019, age 62.  

“Horse-mad and boarded in Elliott House”  She left two children, Nick and Juliette. Mary Panter kindly passed on our condolences to Amanda’s children and her sister Sarah.

Caroline Bradley (Edgcumbe Rendle, 1969-75) wrote that she remembered Amanda very well. “We both rode horses and spent hours talking all things horsey. I’m so sorry to hear this and my thoughts go out to her family. Fond memories.”

Susanna (Sooty) Pearn - Passed away 16th February 2019, age 52.

 “I’m very shocked about Sooty. Hadn’t seen her since SMH but we were good friends back then. We were the naughty lot. Sooty was great fun, best swimmer in our Year especially at Butterfly. Her sister Pippa was very good too. Sooty also used to always suck her thumb and play with her ear at the same time.”

Arabella Van der Merwe (Driscoll, 1984-91)  - Passed away 30th January 2019. Bella died at home in Plettenberg Bay. She had her appendix removed in December and they discovered a cancerous tumour on her colon which was removed. The prognosis sounded hopeful and that, coupled with her characteristic tenacity and classic ‘Driscoll humour’, meant family and friends thought they had many more years with her yet, but it appears she may have had a reaction to chemotherapy and she died very suddenly in her sleep leaving her husband, Werner and two children, Lilyella and Sofia. 

Margaret McCall (Jones 1934-40)  - Passed away Tuesday 20th November 2018.  Her son told us "She had said her farewells to her numerous family and died quite peacefully.  The evening before she had talked by Skype to her grandson Matthew in Gabon and to my brother in Mexico. I hope you are aware how much she valued her contact with the Association. At the end of September she had a long chat on the phone with fellow Old Girl  Marigold (Dancey) Durrant whose own 94th birthday it was.  She has lived all over the United States as her two husbands were both in the US Air Force, and moved about two years back to West Virginia to be near one of her daughters.  They are evidently a long lived family as her brother John, who is a retired Headmaster of Marlborough College, in his late nineties was recently at the school to inaugurate a new boarding house named after him.

Thank you for getting my mother her newsletter, and for your friendship."

Laura Eaton - Passed away 5th November 2018 - Singing teacher at SMH for 17 years from the late 1970s to the early 1990s. Alison Platt  (Schuller) had previously shared a lovely photo of her conducting the Chamber Choir in 1985. Chris Ellison recalled her "making us imagine that we had an orange in our sinus cavity that we had to stretch upwards to lift our soft palate. Very odd imagery really, but it really helped me develop my tone!" Kate Lowe added that "she was a fantastic singing teacher, lots of fond memories" and her colleague Anne Corris commented that she was a wonderful colleague who very sadly lost her son, Robert, in the twin towers disaster.

Anna Campbell - Passed away March 2018.

Anna was killed whilst fighting with an all-female Kurdish armed unit in Syria.  Anna travelled to Syria in May 2017 to join the YPJ after being inspired by their goals to establish a democratic society for women following the invasion of the Islamic State.  Anna’s death was widely publicised in the national and local papers as well as on television.  Her home town of Lewes held a candlelight vigil following the news of her death and a small memorial has been left on Cliffe Bridge in the town.  To read the article in The Guardian, follow this link: Guardian memorial about Anna Campbell

Thelma Celestine Hammerton (Appleyard) 1947-50 - Passed away 31st January 2017, age 85. In 2021 Thelma's daughter got in touch with the Association to offer some of her Mother's treasured SMH Memorabilia. The items have been photographed and may be found on the this website; and those for which we have been able to find homes have been passed into the care of various old girls.

Isobel Chanin (Rowland) 1951-55.- Passed away December 20, 2015, age  76.  

The date of birth mentioned on the website where Jeanette Cureton found this — 13 February 1939 — is corroborated in our SMH Register.

Obituaries were a regular feature of SMH magazines/newsletters. We have listed them (from 2009 to 1960) here.

Please go to the Newsletters page to read any which may interest you. Deaths of SMHA members are also listed in each newsletter but also appear in our “Friends no Longer with us” database (which can be found via this linked page).

The genuine sadness, and recognition of their place in the life of the school is well summed up by this extract from the 1962 newsletter:

"A SMALL TRIBUTE TO MANY

A number of good and faithful members have passed on during the year, and tributes culled

from their friends' letters seem appropriate for those for whom we have no obituaries. So

many have led quiet useful busy lives, some teaching (the Snowdon-Smiths & A . Hobbins),

accountancy (M Thorne), or at home, either as good wives and mothers, still our main

calling, and as grandmothers, most useful people in these days of no nannies, or as good

daughters, like Dorothy Williams, in the Land Army in 1918 and 1919 along with Mrs. Mead

(Amy Law), and then together on to the Essex Agricultural Institute 1919-21, when she

went home to look after her parents. Her mother dies in 1948 at the age of 93.

Dorothy ran a smallholding in Norfolk, mostly goats, poultry and fruit. One remembers

the names Boultbee, Hobbins and Snowdon Smith in letters of gold on the scholarship

boards, and Hanham was another. Short is a well known name, for both sisters were keen

members of the Association. We record also the deaths of three close relations (as we are

always ready to do) as a mark of sympathy.                 H. A. B."

 

2009 Margaret Payne (Hilary House/History), Yvonne Harries, Marion Bucke, Hilary June Gardner, Janet Constance Luyken, Rosemary Jean Crowley and Helen Marion Seth.

 

2008 Mrs Kathleen Parsons (Maths), Judith Spaven, Eileen Muriel Portas, Jean Valerie Strong and Patricia Ann O’Connor.

2007 Elizabeth Edwards, Joan Barker, Betty Donaldson (PE), Margaret Joan Eastham, Charlotte Hester Girdlestone, Mrs Phyl Sheasby (History), Dame Mildred Riddelsdell DCB, CBE, Jane Ellis Freeman and Alma Smallpeice. See also 2006 for Sue Moller and Margaret Ann Robinson.

2006 Sue Moller and Margaret Ann Robinson (see 2007 for both).

2005 Ken Crowther (Physics).

2004 Elizabeth Ryan.

2003 Daisy Delta Lovell Balogh, Daphne Mary Wilson, Phyllis Marion Cook and Elizabeth Spafford.

2002 Penny Burgis, Adrianne Dunbar, Dorathea Phayre Crowley, Aletha Gunnery and Audrey Miller (French)

2001 Vera Rose Allen (English), Helen M Thompson (Boswell), Jack Liddell (Maths), also Sue Hill (late 1960's) - Passed away February 3rd 2001 - For additional details please click the name where underlined above.

2000 Suzi Bannister, Norah May Burden, Pat McCormack, Ginni Reid, Brigadier Dame Jean Rivett-Drake DBE, Elizabeth Enid Storey and Patricia Wood

1999 Miss Monica Ashwin, Frances Bull (Carpenter), Miss Doris Conrady (former head), Esther May Fish (Lloyd), Miss Dorothy Gillian (former bursar), Jacquie Howard (Reason), Miss Margaret Hill (Catering), Mary Newall (Lawry) and Joan Snow (Way),

1998 Miss E M Thouless

1997 none listed

1996 Lieutenant Commander Michael Donovan Martin (former Bursar and author of a history of SMH), Heather Mary Ford (PE), Wendy Rogers (Maths) and Sister Phyllis Robinson.

1995 Charity Robins Girdlestone and Miss Irene Ashwin,

1994 Heather Ford - Head of P.E. - Passed away 1994. (also reference to Mr Williamson, who passed away c 1996)

For additional details please click the name where underlined above.

1993 Audrey Baron-Suckling (start is missing), Carole Spencer (Beeby), Sarah Olive Norma Skene (see also 1992), Mrs R Sandy and Margaret Muriel Paterson

1992 Miss Olive Skene (see also 1993) and Miss Robine Edmondes Owen

1991 Miss Barbara Burner, Dorothy Butcher, Walter Dingwall (Governor), Angela Girdlestone and Dorothy Edyvean (Gayer).

1990 none listed

1989 Philippa Gerrard-Wright, Mr C E M Elliott (Governor), Mary Elizabeth Jill Baker, Margot Moyle (Facer), Dennis John Cowing (former Head of Chemistry),

1988 Miriam Peckham (Foster)

1987 Mrs M G E Hora and Mrs Barbara Newcombe (Miss Cardwell)

1986 Jessica Livock (Sutthery), Marjorie Rossi (Segal)

1985 Joyce Bowesman (Barton), Joan Gaynord (Spooner) and Joan Irving (Bardsley).

1984 Rosamund Broadley (Elliott), Gertrude England (Shallard), Mrs E M Hardy (Howard), Irene Laurence and Yolande Riddelsdell

1983 Mrs Mary Webb, Anne Elizabeth Peters (Gasston) and Stephanie Gasston.

1982 Elizabeth Ann Parsons (Everritt).

1981 Phyllis Chilcott, Miss Taylor and Mary Wall.

1980 Mrs Caswell, Lois Gunnery and Mrs Martin (Margaret Hunt).

1979 Grace Geary, Mrs A MacFarlane CBE, Peggy Thompson and Miss W Kingdon-Ward.

1978 Sir Richard Barrett-Lennard (Governor), Mrs Footit (Mildred Norris), Mrs McMinn (Joyce Lena Witcomb), Miss C A Peebles, Mrs Pollard (Freda Fotheringham) and Miss B M Pope MBE.

1977 Gwen Gaster, Lois Gunnery, Margaret Howard and Mrs Jennings (M Whittingham-Ince) (see also 1976)

1976 Miss Evelyn Hopley, Mrs Jennings (M Whittingham-Ince) (see also 1977), Joyce Newton, Eleanor Outram, Miss E M Smith, Miss Ruth Smith, Lady Sherwood (Katherine Ives) and Miss H F Perry.

1975 none listed

1974 Mrs Eade (Phyllis Pearce), Mrs Bell (Mary Wade), and Mrs Cox (Dulci Mann)

1973 Miss H F Perry.

1972 Dr Joan H Blackledge, Ethel Grace Brownlow, Helen Graham, Miss E Stopford.

1971 Miss Esther Galton, Mrs Baron-Suckling MBE, Miss Catherine Mary Holdsworth, Miss Morley (see also 1970), Mrs Cunnew (Ada Oliphant) and Mrs Peacock (Connie Godwin).

1970 Miss Morley (see also 1971)

1969 Janet Romanis Smith, Mary W Short, Hilda M Segall and Kathleen S Osborne (Segall).

1968 Phyllis M Elliott and Margaret Stuart Black.

1967 none recorded

1966 Dr Dulcie Adkins, Miss Enid D C Atkinson, Margaret Mary Church, Miss Sybil Notley, Mary Ogle, Winifred Batson, Miss Bolton, Peggy Smee, Margaret Wanstall and Eleanor Gordon Woodgate, OBE.

1965 (no newsletter)

1964 Lucy Coe, Kathleen E Taylor, Winifred Hopley, Constance Eacott, Miss Bolton and Miss M E Parkinson

1963 Miss Margaret Hensley, Winifred Owen Smith, Miss J  S F  Batterbury, Miss Norah Shelton, MBE, Mrs Lindars (Rose Chevallier), Mrs Madden, Louisa Barrett, Mrs Vernon-Jackson (Frances Hardinge) and Miss M V Stonehouse.

1962 Miss Harriet Robinson (former head), Miss Margarette Ethel Wright, Miss Webster, Miss Helen Potter and Ethel May Hanham.

1961 Sister Margaret Dorothea (Margaret Baker), Jessie Sturdy (Cribb), and Edith M Taylor.

1960 Miss E M Mace, Eirene Adkins, Mary Pechey, Miss Ida M E Hitchcock, Marion Bartrum (Burton) and Dorothy Heelas.